My friend Shara recently wrote a hilarious blog, "Men Are Pigs, and I Love Bacon". In this masterpiece, Shara: The Young Professional, questions why since she and all her friends are so beautiful, witty, intelligent, funny, can drink you under the table, etc., they cannot find good men (no- they do not live in LA).
First, very simply, because more women are better than more men- many women end up lowering their good-man-standards. Good women outnumber good men. There are many "crazies, liars, and losers" and only a few good men (couldn't help it, sorry). But it’s deeper than that.
Among these remaining good men, some of them prefer to date women they feel are inferior to them. Several months ago, I was having dinner with my friend Nina when a couple of guys sitting at the table next to us overheard our discussion and interrupted. "Are you two hotties (something really corny like that) really getting PhDs??" Nina giggled (for affect- brilliant) and said, "No silly, we work in retail". Her statement was met with instant excitement. And to think that the teacher in Mean Girls advises LiLo not to "dumb herself down" to get a man. Don't question Lindsay. Ever! Those weren't even her pants.
Anyway Shara, to answer your question, the problem with you and your friends sounds like the same problem with me and my friends. The problem is that it's not us, but rather a vile little epidemic called male insecurity. Too many men are intimidated by intelligent women with rockin' bodies. Because even some of the "good" ones (good- lets discuss this at a later date shall we?...) are so insecure, they prefer to date women that they feel are below them.
Just like Shara "knows" she and her friends are good catches, I KNOW just how ugly and rotten male insecurity really is. The sad and pathetic truth is that the ego of an insecure man cannot sustain a good woman.
All those adjectives Shara uses...beautiful, nice, hilarious, will create sexual tension with a coffee table and then dance on it after drinking you under the table (my favorite line)... are in fact- in today's male dominated society- debilitating. My advice? If you really want a boyfriend, put on whatever weight you can, take your diplomas off the wall, and get a job that will allow you to wear low cut shirts all the time. However, if you genuinely don't give a shit like Shara and me, and enjoy your freedom and independence, then welcome to the fascinating world of women who refuse to be held down by losers… and therefore, we’ll dance on any table we see fit thank you.
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